Why You Overthink Every Interaction After It Happens For some people, conversations don’t end when they’re over. They continue replaying in the mind long afterward. You might notice yourself thinking: Why did I say that? Did I sound rude? Maybe they took that the wrong...
Why You Feel Guilty Setting Boundaries (Even When You’re Being Reasonable) You can know a boundary is fair… and still feel bad the moment you say it. You might notice: guilt immediately after saying no anxiety when someone seems disappointed the urge to soften, explain,...
Why You Shut Down During Conflict (Even When You Care) People who shut down during conflict are often misunderstood — including by themselves. As a trauma therapist in Madison, Connecticut, I often work with adults who experience shutdown during conflict even in caring relationships They...
Why You Feel Responsible for Everyone’s Feelings Most people who feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions don’t describe themselves that way. They say things like: “I just don’t want to upset anyone.” “I’m good at reading the room.” “I hate tension.” “If someone’s uncomfortable, I...