I know you heard and read this before and I will repeat it: The holiday season often stirs a myriad of emotions. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, this time of year can be particularly challenging. Memories of unmet emotional needs, PTSD symptoms, and the pressure to create a picture-perfect holiday experience can intensify feelings of loneliness and self-doubt.I want to offer you guidance and support during childhood emotional neglect healing journey.
Self-Reflection for Self-Validation:
Begin by setting aside some quiet moments for self-reflection. During this exercise, allow yourself to acknowledge the emotions that the holiday season stirs within you. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and journal your thoughts. Ask yourself, "What emotions are arising, and where might they be stemming from?" By recognizing the origins of your feelings, you can validate your emotional responses and offer yourself the compassion you need. Remember, it's perfectly okay to feel what you feel.
The holiday season often brings social obligations and gatherings. While these can be enjoyable, they can also be overwhelming, especially for those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect. Setting clear boundaries is an act of self-compassion. You have the right to say "no" when you need to protect your emotional well-being. Prioritize self-care by establishing limits on your commitments; perhaps, before saying "yes", reflect and notice what you are taking on. This will allow you to engage in activities that genuinely nourish your soul and leave you feeling more empowered.
Building a Support System:
Healing from childhood emotional neglect often benefits from a support system. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide the understanding and validation you may crave during this season. Share your feelings, thoughts, and concerns. It's important to remind yourself that you're not alone, and there are people who genuinely care about your well-being. Building connections and seeking support can be a significant step in your healing journey.
Work with your body:
Incorporate somatic practices to connect with your body and emotions. Find a quiet space, close or keep your your eyes open, and take a few deep breaths. Bring your attention to physical sensations in your body. Notice areas of tension, discomfort, or ease. Imagine a warm, soothing light moving through your body skipping parts of your body that is overwhelmed, gently releasing tension. This exercise helps you become more in tune with your body's responses to emotional triggers, promoting self-validation and a sense of grounding. The more often you use this exercise, the better you will become at it.
The holiday season is an opportune time to delve deeper into your healing process from childhood emotional neglect. By engaging in self-reflection, setting boundaries, and seeking support, you can navigate this season . Remember that healing is a journey, and it's perfectly acceptable to honor your emotions, needs, and boundaries. I am here to provide guidance and support during this season and beyond. You deserve the compassion you so readily offer to others.